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March 2018

a man and woman's legs partly covered with a bed sheet

Love Lounge – How Can We Spice Things Up?

By | Emily Yates, Sex & disability, The Love Lounge | No Comments

Hi Love Lounge!
Sex with my partner is great.  We both have cerebral palsy though, which makes certain positions quite painful and time-consuming to get in and out of.  Any suggestions of how to spice things up?





Hi Andy,

First of all, great to hear you’re having such a good time!! 😉

Part of me wants to say ‘stick to what you know if it’s working so well!’ but I totally understand that desire for exciting new things.  I’ve got cerebral palsy too, and anything involving stretching my hamstrings or inner thighs is pretty much off limits! Have you tried the spooning sex position? Exactly the same as spooning, but with a cheeky bit of penetration and thrusting involved! The fab thing about this is that your partner will be able to keep their legs at a relaxed angle and width, too.  Or… maybe spicing things up doesn’t have to mean a different position?! You’d be surprised at how much a blindfold, some candle wax (be careful!) or a wrist restraint could make your usual position feel like a new one!! Happy to give more hints and tips on this if that’s the route you want to go down – let me know!!

Em x

traditional buildings in Poland

Making History Accessible – Our Time In Poland

By | Emily Yates, Lifestyle | No Comments

I was fortunate enough to spend February in Poland, specifically in Warsaw, Krakow and Gdansk, whilst travel writing for Globe Hopper Guides.  Poland is always somewhere I’ve wanted to go, but also somewhere I’ve always stereotyped as being cold and inaccessible.  Whilst I was certainly correct with my first assumption, I couldn’t have been more wrong about the latter…

A culturally and architecturally diverse capital, Warsaw is the place to go if you like eating a different worldly cuisine every evening, love the arts and the sciences (there’s the Chopin Museum and the Copernicus Science Centre within a stone’s throw of each other) and are a real city person who likes to witness a bit of ‘edge’ when they travel.  My highlight of the city, however, was slightly different.  Even though I love all of the things listed above, I was truly blown away by the accessibility in every single attraction we visited and the fact that there were dipped kerbs…literally everywhere! Result! I’ve been to quite a few cities now, but I’ve yet to see another one that lets passengers at each tram stop know when the next wheelchair accessible one is arriving by displaying a little wheelchair icon on the arrivals board.  Trust me, that’s such a welcome sight in -4 temperatures!!

Next, we moved onto Krakow, a vibrant place of contrast, filled with jolly stag parties and laced with an unspeakable past.  I was aware that, as a wheelchair user, I’d struggle to visit Auschwitz, a place preserved as much as possible to show the horrors that happened little more than 60 years ago.  I didn’t quite realise, though, how accessible the likes of Oskar Schindler’s Enamel Factory, the MOCAK and the Salt Mines would be – all worth a look and a visit, wheelchair user or not!

Last but not least, we made it to beautiful Gdansk, a UNESCO Heritage site full of harbours, seafood and nautical treasures, all surrounded by astonishing buildings and a (nippy!) sea breeze.  Whilst not the most accessible place on our Polish list, it is most certainly worth a visit…. If you can contend with the cobbles!

A country steeped in history, tragedy, pride and strength, I could not recommend Poland enough to any traveller wanting to learn from the past, whilst embracing the promising charm of Poland’s future.

a man and woman getting close and giggling

Love Lounge – I Really Fancy a Guy at Work!

By | Emily Yates, Sex & disability, The Love Lounge | No Comments

Hi Emily,

There’s a guy I really fancy at work.  We chat, and I’m pretty sure, flirt, allllllll the time and he goes out of his way to spend time with me or grab lunch with me etc etc etc.  I’d ask him out but I’ve been knocked back so many times before, maybe he just sees me as a mate? What do you think?

H x



Hi H!

Thanks for writing in to us.  I guess my first, and most important question is, would you be able to handle it if you asked him on a date and he said no? If you don’t think you could, then I don’t think you’re quite ready to put yourself out there just yet, and that’s more than okay! The bottom line is that, mates or more, this guy really values you, your opinion and your time, and those are amazing signs for a great friendship, or relationship.  None of us are immune to rejection unfortunately (wouldn’t it be great if we were?!) If I were you, I’d arrange to see this guy out of work as much as possible; spend some quality time together and you’ll soon know if he’s worth risking rejection on or not! If you ask me, the signs look good, but only he will be able to tell you how he really feels – and that point where you just NEED to know will either arrive, or it won’t, and I think that will tell you all you need to know 😊

Good luck!
Em x